Katie July 17, 2012, 9:42 am
We agree with you… i dunno. Its difficult. I recently know personally i couldnt just let the lady glare at me personally for no reason… like, sorry woman, be angry at him. We have done absolutely nothing to you. But thats simply anyone I will be.
Like i stated, i wouldnt walk out my solution to attempt to communicate with her, but she will turn her focus from the LW being an issue to the guy being the issue, which is what is going on if she sets the record straight with the girlfriend, hopefully.
Katie July 17, 2012, 9:50 am
As well as, exactly what can you want to bet they talk all the time that he is feeding his new girlfriend the whole “crazy ex” routine to explain why? And was operating into one another really and truly just a coincidence?
Nadine 17, 2012, 9:52 am july
I could understand why you’d believe that means, it isnt nice never to be liked, but I browse the page to be in regards to the LW relationship with ex-BF, perhaps perhaps not the ex-BF relationship that is current. Thats just a complicator. The LW is only able to get a handle on her very own actions, and ignore the ex-BF calling and annoying that is being. New GF to his relationship is none of her company, and honestly, the 2 girls need not be friends after all. It could you need to be yet another url to the man for the LW, that is attempting to cut ties that are emotional.
Katie 17, 2012, 9:54 am july
Thats an excellent point for sure!
Nadine July 17, 2012, 10:01 am
Oh and god, we hate the crazy ex routine – I familiar with be friends using this number of dudes whom once had such lady-issues, and all sorts of the girls they dated would get crazy in it after two weeks and I’d get actually amazed, cos they seemed therefore normal in my experience? Then it had been realised by me wasn’t the girls, its the inventors. And also the girls had been all simply normal those who, you understand, wished to understand if that they had a boyfriend or not…….
Katie July 17, 2012, 10:04 am
Yea. Its love, as soon as that occurs enough times- what’s the common denominator? YOU WILL BE!!
I do feel detrimental to this new GF. She deserves to possess a guy’s complete attention. And she deserves a man who isnt hung through to their ex, calling her and telling her which he nevertheless longs for her and material. Thats messed up! And she probably hates the LW as the man is telling her a couple of crap about her. Its simply all wrong. The whole thing.
Nadine 17, 2012, 10:09 am july
Personally I think bad she needs to look out for herself for her too, but. Its difficult being the girlfriend that is first a long relationship, but thats really why many people go into all of them with their eyes available. Oh and the man has to quit dropping “But We have a girlllllllfriend! ” into conversation. We keep imagining him carrying it out the real method the crossdresser does it in minimal Britain, perhaps you have seen that? “Oh, but I’m a layyyyydeee! ”
Bagge72 17, 2012, 10:25 am july
Yeah that “but I have girlfriend” line is such crap, the LW understands he is just looking for a reaction everytime he says it that he has a GF. He wishes the LW to be like “well I don’t care if you do have a GF, i am going to nevertheless blow you” or “Dump that skank, and get back to me”
Katie 17, 2012, 10:27 am july
Yea, its like whenever i was in senior school and me personally and my boyfriend would split up every single other week, in which he would “accidently” we would fight and get back together text me or something just so.
Lets_be_honest 17, 2012, 2:45 pm july
@katie, hahaha “just so we would fight and obtain right right right back together”
Kerrycontrary 17, 2012, 10:05 am july
I’ve said right right here a whole lot, if the guy whips out of the word “crazy” I run one other means. I understand so men that are many utilize that word to hide for his or her dickish behavior.
Will.i.am July 17, 2012, 11:56 am
We don’t understand why individuals would phone some body crazy into the place that is first. I simply state we didn’t see eye to eye long-term and then leave it at that. The simple fact which you place a “crazy” datingmentor.org/single-parent-match-review label about it, makes me think you are the one which loves to stir the muck.
Will.i.am July 17, 2012, 11:57 am
Additionally, if you’re prepared to phone somebody crazy, wouldn’t which means that you could be kinda crazy too?
Rilooyah 17, 2012, 4:44 pm july
So real! As soon as the “crazy” comes away, Im running one other method. I do believe it absolutely was stated above- whenever you attract the crazy, the typical denominator is constantly YOU, friend.
Bagge72 July 17, 2012, 10:21 am
The truth is, that it really is partially the LW’s fault, she understands that he’s in this relationship, and she’s knows that when this occurred to her she most likely could be upset about this too, yet somehow she will continue to respond to this dudes calls despite the fact that he keeps stating that he could be dreaming about her, and all sorts of of this bull shit.
Lets_be_honest 17, 2012, 10:26 am july
Yep! We completely agree. LW, simply stop responding to. Don’t talk to the woman because your simply likely to cause drama. You need to just understand he’s maybe maybe not your boyfriend and also if you nevertheless like their attention, the fact that you realize he’s got a gf is causing you to a poor man in this too.
Katie July 17, 2012, 10:35 am
This is certainly a great point, you dudes. I didnt think about it like this.
So LW, them happyness, leave them alone!! Like eljay (i love you, eljay) said, someone has to be the adult in this situation if you really do respect their relationship and wish. If he could be perhaps not happy to be, you need to do it.
Painted_lady 17, 2012, 2:17 pm july
Amen bestie – I trust you about talking into the girlfriend. That knows just just what this guy has stated concerning the LW to justify their chatting so frequently, but as the relationship is none of these business, the fact the LW while the brand new gf have actually met now i believe enables the LW some freedom. If I experienced held it’s place in a predicament where a pal brought some body around that I’d heard of and wished to be friends with (I’m planning to assume that the LW desires that? ) and it also went horribly, i would touch base and get, hey, I’m therefore sorry that went defectively. She does not fundamentally need to state, “Hey, which means that your boyfriend happens to be saying that is___ in my experience and he’s the main one calling, in which he explained you had been ok using this, ” just “Hey, I’m therefore sorry that went poorly, I happened to be beneath the impression you had been ok with your being buddies, but i simply discovered I’m not ok with your being friends either, so that it’s no problem anymore. ”
Kerrycontrary July 17, 2012, 9:37 am
I wouldn’t speak with the gf about that. If We had been dating some body for 2 months the very last thing i might desire is the ex of 3 years reaching off to me personally. And merely to inform you which you respect her relationship? I might think you’re bullshitting me personally and playing mind games. Simply Take Wendy’s advice and inform your ex lover you don’t like to hear from him for some time, then keep them alone. Truthfully they probably won’t workout because you may be nevertheless within the image (which does not do great things for a brand new relationship), but allow them work that out on their own.
Kerrycontrary 17, 2012, 9:39 am july
Oh in addition, if we were the newest gf and my bf and I also went into their ex at a club i might additionally need that people leave straight away. It is therefore uncomfortable. Everybody pretends they can be “mature” and stay buddies with exes and stay completely okay as soon as your SO’s ex appears, but why? You don’t have actually become okay with being around your boyfriends ex-girlfriend of three years.
Bagge72 July 17, 2012, 10:28 am